The president held a news conference yesterday to endorse a Constitutional Amendment to define marriage as a union between a man and a woman. The president believes that this action is necessary because “activist judges” are taking this issue out of the hands of the American public.
The president believes that marriage is the most fundamental institution of civilization and that it should not be redefined by activist judges. He stated his belief that the union of a man and women in marriage is the most enduring relationship in human history. That this traditional union is crucial to the well being of families. He spoke of the important role that families play in raising our children and in passing along values to the next generation of Americans. And, the president stated that “changing the definition of families would undermine our society.”
Marriage is the most fundamental institution of civilization. But, it’s place in our society has evolved greatly over our nation’s history (not to mention the history of the human race). In fact, much of our society has changed remarkably over the past 50 years – the number of marriages ending in divorce and the number of single parents have both soared.
But, neither of these facts is a compelling argument to ban same sex marriage in our country. It is too simple in today’s society to define a marriage as simply a union between a man and a woman. It is much more than that. It is a loving, committed relationship in which two individuals pledge to stand together as one. It is a relationship that our government should be encouraging – regardless of the sex of the two individuals who are entering into that relationship.
By claiming that the recognition of same sex marriage is being driven by the courts and “activist judges” rather than the people, the president is failing to recognize the role of the courts as the protector minority rights in our nation. Even if a majority of Americans do not approve of gay marriage it does not make a ban on those individuals entering the bonds of matrimony right.
If the courts were silent during the 1950s and 1960s would black Americans still be second class citizens relegated to segregated water fountains and bathrooms?
As the president himself said “every American deserves to be treated with tolerance, respect, and dignity.” It is time that our society recognized that two women can enter into a loving, committed relationship, that two men can be good parents who will raise their children to be virtuous members of our society, and that it is wrong to ban same sex marriages.